"Real learning comes about when the competitive spirit has ceased." — Jiddu Krishnamurti

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

In my younger years I was competitive. I didn't like loosing or looking like the weaker participant. 
Within the past years my competitive drive has significantly lessened. 
There is part of me that is surprisingly happy about this, and then the other part is wondering "what is wrong with you?!"  
Now I don't want to mislead myself or anyone else, there is still that competitive pilot light inside.... it just doesn't become a full burning flame as often. 
I think the main point I have come to is... "what's the point of being competitive?" 
Nothing really good comes from being super competitive except winning, which is nice but if you lose it almost hurts twice as bad when being competitive. 
I have come to find that there are more negative outcomes than positive when I am overly competitive, hurting feelings, looking like a d-bag, regretting something I said, ruining a perfectly good afternoon,  feeling bad about myself, and making something that should be fun not fun. 
I think I am more interested these days in just having fun, where the score is not even kept. 

"Youth is happy because it has the capacity to see beauty. Anyone who keeps the ability to see beauty never grows old." — Franz Kafka

Thursday, November 6, 2014

Today I am a year older.
Do I feel older? No.
Do I look older, maybe more wise? Probably not.
Have I reached the peak of my 20's? I sure hope not.
This morning didn't feel any different from any other morning, so I did what I do most mornings.

The morning was quiet with the company of tea, just as I wanted.
I started to browse through some of my favorite blogs trying to catch up on the readings and I came across this wonderful quote from one of my favorite bloggers, Cup of Joe.

"It doesn’t make sense to call ourselves ugly, because we don’t really see ourselves. We don’t watch ourselves sleeping in bed, curled up and silent with chests rising and falling with our own rhythm. We don’t see ourselves reading a book, eyes fluttering and glowing. You don’t see yourself looking at someone with love and care inside your heart. There’s no mirror in your way when you’re laughing and smiling and happiness is leaking out of you. You would know exactly how bright and beautiful you are if you saw yourself in the moments where you are truly yourself."

After reading this quote I decided to challenge myself this next year to look at myself through the eyes of others.
It's tricky and almost feels vain, but I feel by doing this I will be setting myself up better for the rest of life.
It is like starting anti-wrinkling cream before the wrinkles come, one step ahead.
I am excited to see what life brings and what I can bring to life; more understanding, care, forgiveness, self-acceptance and laughter.

“There is nothing in the world so irresistibly contagious as laughter and good humor.” ― Charles Dickens

Monday, November 3, 2014

Sometimes I like to play the game "If you could spend one day with a famous male/female celebrity who would it be?" 
My celebrity choices are Amy Poehler and Jimmy Fallon.
I think it is obvious why I would select them. They are hilarious, witty, kind and I feel like with their mix of humor and vulnerability they would have a unique insight to life. 
I think a day spent with them would be well spent. 

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